It is truly important that children love themselves from their toe nails to their hair. When children love their hair, it helps to create a positive self-image that will transcend into adulthood. As an owner of a salon that caters to children, I constantly see parents unintentionally discussing their child’s hair in a negative way. A lot of the time, it is the parents own negative self-image that they are projecting on to their child. It is very important that parents understand that speaking negatively about their child’s hair influences their child’s self-image. It is vital that parents learn how to positively influence their child’s confidence about their hair. Here are 5 helpful tips to help your child love their hair:
1.Always Use Positive Words When Talking About Their Hair.
People, including children, are greatly influenced by the words and terms used to describe them on a daily basis by the people around them, especially their parents. This is why using positive words to describe your child’s hair is very important. It will have great influence on their self-image into adulthood. Examples of positive words used to describe a child’s hair are adorable, lovely, handsome, cute, beautiful, sharp etc. But you can also use words like smart, intelligent, graceful, strong, or brave to show them that they are more than just physical features.
Telling them that you love their hair and then explaining why, helps to further build their confidence around their hair. Using phrases like "I love your hair because" or "Your hair is special because" aids them in developing a love for their own hair.
2. Ask Them What They Love About Their Hair.
Asking them why they love their hair causes them to think about their hair in positive ways. If they cannot come up with a reason of why they love their hair help them develop loving terms to describe their hair. This will also help to build a good image in their mind about the texture and color of their hair.
3. Get Them Involved in Their Hair Regimen Early.
Though it may be time consuming and even a little bit frustrating, take the time to involve your child in their hair grooming process. Explain to them that because their hair is curly, coily, straight, thick, fine, blonde, dark, long or short, we use these products and tools. This will allow them to become knowledgeable and develop a routine and relationship with their hair.
4. Find Toys That Possess Your Child’s Hair Texture and Color.
Buy them toys that look like them. Some of your child’s first friends are there dolls/figurines. Your child’s toys influence their definition of what is beautiful or cool. Buying toys that have the same hair texture and color as your child will have a positive impact on the way that they view their hair.
5. Lead by Example
As a parent, you have great influence over your child’s thoughts and self-image. Even when you think your child is not listening, they are. So being intentional about the words you used to describe your own self-image as well as theirs is very important. Being sure to use positive words to describe your own hair will in-turn show them how to view and treat themselves. When speaking with friends in a casual setting, avoid using negative words to comparing your child to your friend's child’s hair. Comparing your child to another child’s hair teaches them to compete and look at other individuals for their standard of beauty.
So, encourage your child to welcome who they are with open arms and heart. And remind them of the wise words of Dr. Suess “Today you are YOU, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than YOU!”